Have you ever been striving for something you want… love, money, success, a new relationship, and yet felt like no matter what you did something was keeping you stuck?
Something was stopping you from moving forward and being able to achieve what you wanted?
And yet you couldn’t quite put your finger on what it was?
I’ve felt exactly that same way.
There were things I wanted to create in my life, mostly having to do with taking my business to the next level that for some reason just weren’t happening. And I couldn’t figure out why.
It seemed like no matter what I did, I just kept coming up against all kinds of obstacles and challenges that prevented me from moving forward.
I was really beside myself in trying to figure out what I could be doing to attract all the mishaps and barriers to my success.
I had done all the usual Law of Attraction work… I was very clear about what I wanted, had done a lot of internal work to clear any limiting beliefs, and was really committed to the process of doing whatever it took to manifest my desire.
What was I missing?
I finally got to the point where I just surrendered and gave it up to God.
I asked for guidance as to what was preventing me from moving forward and how I was keeping myself stuck.
That same day, I happen to watch a little 5 minute video entitled, “Did You Know That Environment Always Wins?”
I watched the video. And then watched it again.
And then again.
And then again.
I’ll probably watch it again.
God might as well have hit me over the head with a hammer.
Suddenly the light bulb went off and it became abundantly clear to me what had been holding me back. And how I was keeping myself stuck.
I had done everything necessary to manifest my desire, except for one thing…
I hadn’t changed my environment.
I’m not talking about my physical environment, although that can be equally as critical.
No, this was about the people I’d been surrounding myself with.
People who I loved dearly and who were truly good people, but who weren’t supporting the highest vision of me and my life.
They still saw me as the insecure, not terribly successful person I used to be years ago.
NOT the person I am now. And by continuing to surround myself with these people, it was keeping me stuck from moving on to a greater level of success in my life.
But a part of me just didn’t want to believe that. I thought I could be bigger than the situation and my environment.
The truth was I just didn’t want to let go. I was afraid of what would happen.
I didn’t want to hurt them or make them feel bad.
Yet, by keeping them in my life, I was essentially saying to the Universe that they were more important than I was.
I was sacrificing my own feelings and desires to theirs, just to make sure they wouldn’t be hurt.
But the painful, painful truth was they didn’t value me.
They weren’t supporting my desires. They wanted to keep me where I was because that’s the only vision of me they had.
I had grown, but their vision of me hadn’t.
G-R-O-W-I-N-G pains. Sometimes they really suck.
I’ve seen it happen in relationships over and over again. And certainly experienced it myself.
One partner grows and develops in their life, and the other doesn’t.
And the partner who doesn’t continues to try and keep the other one from growing, because they realize either they will have to grow too, or their partner will eventually move on.
This can be a REALLY scary thing to look at in our lives.
It sure has been for me.
But I also know that if I don’t let go, I’ll never be able to grow to the level I want.
When the people around you aren’t supporting your desires and dreams for the future, eventually your environment will win.
Eventually you’ll either be dragged down to their level or you’ll just stay stuck right where you are.
Years ago, I worked in an office full of women who LOVED to bad mouth the men in their lives or just men in general. Every day I’d go in to work and get sucked into their stories of all their trial and tribulations with men.
I finally realized that if I was ever going to have manifest the relationship I desired with a man I was going to have to distance myself from these women or their bitterness would start affecting the way I felt about men as well.
So coming from one who is all too familiar with the pains of growth, I’m going to give you an assignment:
Where is your environment keeping you stuck?
Are there people in your life who aren’t supporting your vision of your greatest self? Your greatest life? Your greatest relationship?
Then it’s time to start cleaning out and letting go.
What’s one thing you can let go of today?
Is there a person or relationship that’s no longer serving you?
Or maybe some old stuff from the past that you’ve been hanging on to because there’s a part of you that doesn’t want to let it go?
It’s time to step into the new version of you… fully and completely.
And that means letting go of everything in your life that isn’t serving you.
You don’t have to do it all at once.
Just take the first step. Do the first thing.
The rest will follow. And with every step forward you’ll feel more and more empowered.
And you’ll find the Universe stepping forward to support you.
It can be scary and painful at first. Believe me I’m right there with you.
But I also know that when we let go of what’s no longer serving and supporting us, we make room for what will.
And like the caterpillar climbing out of its cocoon… it’s a worthwhile trip.
You emerge as the butterfly and get to fly to your dreams… whether that’s the man of your dreams or the success that’s eluded you up till now.
Climb out of your cocoon and out of the environment that has held you back, and your dreams will be there waiting for you.
Open your arms. Your time is NOW.