Since one of the first steps in creating a life you truly love is being able to fully let go of the past, I thought I would share a story of how I learned to finally forgive and release the past, so I could step into a brilliant new future. I’ve had numerous requests for [...]
Divorce
I have a confession. If you haven’t read my bio on my website or blog, you may not know I’ve been engaged twice and married twice, all to different men. In addition, my daughter and I were both molested by my former stepfather. Healing from heartbreak is something I know how to do really, really well. I’ve learned that once you know how to heal your heart, the process is the same, regardless of the circumstances.
A few months ago, I started working with a client who was struggling to pull her life together after her husband left her for another woman. She was in a great deal of pain and having a difficult time letting go of her anger, jealousy, and resentment. As we discussed what she could do to start healing, my heart welled with empathy. Years ago, I was hopelessly in love with a man who left me two separate times to have affairs with much younger women.
A few years ago, I read a story about Deepak Chopra in Joe Vitale’s book, The Key, that left a huge impact on me. After reading this story, I made a list of all the things that were triggering reactions in me about my ex-husband. I discovered the judgments and beliefs I was carrying around towards him were mirroring the beliefs I actually had about myself…
After my divorce, the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was the lingering resentment I felt towards my ex-husband. It kept me glued to the past. It ate away at my self-esteem and chained me to seeing myself as a victim. The definition of resentment is “Indignation, or ill will, felt as a result of a real, or imagined, grievance.” Whether my indignation and ill will were real, or imagined was irrelevant. As long as I hung on to my resentment, I gave away my power to change anything in my life.
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